Saturday, January 31, 2009


Here is the easiest way to meet more people and improve your dating and make eye contact with everyone you see!

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Check His/Her References

This week I have been talking about how we are so eager to open our arms…and our hearts to someone merely based on what we see in front of us. As if, that persons history has no bearing what so ever on the here and now. And let me tell does and it should! We have historians for a reason….so, that facts and information..good and bad..will NEVER be forgotten. Why is someones credit history so important? Because tells a story of a persons character and accountability. Yet, why is it…when a man or a woman shows the right clothes…with the hot body or beautiful car..or just telling us what we want to hear in that moment…that, that is all it takes. We choose to ignore or even look into the persons history or moral character. Has he/she ever cheated? “Well, he/she won’t with me!” Has that person ever neglected their child? “Well, they wouldn’t do that to our child!” Has that person ever committed a crime, had drug convictions, gotten fired from jobs or even been irresponsible with their pets?

If you were worked for a car dealership and you reviewed the persons credit report, would you be able to give him the car? If you were interviewing this person to work for you, would you hire them based on their work history and personal references? Stop and think for a minute…..if you wouldn’t even consider hiring this person….based on their proven track record…then why on earth would you allow yourself the possibility of falling in love with them? The answer is simple. You place more value in protecting the interest of a company, than in, protecting your own heart and future. Isn't your heart...your life...a little more valuable than a car? Of course it is! So, in the future..before the "I love yous" get the facts, ask the questions, listen to the answers and let their story..their personal the deciding factor...not the wine and roses. Because once the romance is gone..all that you and your heart will be left the persons moral character.

Friday, January 16, 2009

Prince Charming

When I ask women to tell me what type of man they are looking for, they describe what all good fantasies are made of..tall, handsome, smart, funny, fit, wealthy. And basically, what they should just say is…”I’m looking for prince charming”. Because let’s face it..since we were kids..every happy ending was the average girl, damsel in distress, slave or princess..always being rescued and riding off into the sunset with prince charming. So, it has become in grained in our subconscious, when asked of our ideal say, prince charming. But, I think the key is not that he is a prince or good looking, tall, smart, or George Clooney…the key to getting any lady, is the “charming” part. And if you’re charming enough, she will see you as her matter what you look like or how much money you have.
So, I started wondering what is charm?

And here is what I’ve come up with so far…feel free to add your own ideas of “charm”.

Confidence…combined with smart…quick-witted….polite banter.

I think is one form.

I think taking charge….combined with a big smile…..and an attitude of “Hey..Life’s great”…is another way to be charming.

Not being needy or foolish or rude or too cocky or too nice.

A man who won’t be taken advantage of…but, who also won’t trick or take advantage of a woman. He makes a woman feel safe, protected. He can be funny, smart and counted on. But, can walk away without being mad or hurt…because…he’s his own man.and doesn’t need a woman to tell him that. Or validate his worth. He knows his worth; he’s happy and secure..but, not cocky…or too cocky.

Friday, January 9, 2009

Improve your life and start now

If you are like most people, there will come a time in your life where you are stuck, in your love life or just in your life. Are you alone? Are you in a bad or just boring relationship? Well, it's a new year and there is no better time to look back at what got you to this place in life and look ahead to where you would like it to go in the future. Now, take a good look at the present and the changes you need to make. I recommend, instead of the usual "baby steps" or "sticking your toe in the water".....if a change is what you what, then you must plunge into action. Now!
One of my big changes last year was starting my own internet radio show, called "Love Life Makeovers" where each week I have a featured guest who has insight or advice on anything and all things love related. And if you had told me this time last year, that I would have this show..(that has become hugely popular)...I would have said "no way." So, I speak from experience when I give you the following advice on changing your life for the better. I hope it helps.

Here are a few suggestions to get you started, although, everyone's "sticking point" is different..the idea is to take an honest look at your life and what is holding you back and to tackle it in a big way. But, I have listed big and small changes...for those who aren't quite ready yet.

Step 1: If you are tired of looking at you're same old place...change it. If you can't move (which would be the best way for a huge change, because it changes who you meet at the grocery store, gas station and changes your whole life) then just redecorate your place. Sell your furniture on craigslist..or trade it in..or just move it around and recover. Paint. Painting a room is an instant affordable, change. Put new or vintage knobs on your doors and cabinets. Get new pictures for your walls. You can even just start small, with your bathroom. Any change is change. FYI...changing your bedroom, even what you wear to a great place to start with changing your current love situation. Freshen it up, spice it up.

Step 2: Start going to new places...even just to run errands or walk your dogs.

Step 3: Smile and say "Hi" to anyone and everyone. I can't tell you how much positive attention I get from people when I walk around with a smile on my face. And not a huge "I'm crazy" smile..but, a pleasant, friendly smile. And make sure you are aware of your facial expression at all times. Even just smiling when you're by yourself..will put you in a better mood. This might sound strange...but, it works.

Step 4: If you don't like your something about it. Look around for other work opportunities or even sign up to do community work. This might open new job opportunities and will most certainly allow you to meet new people.

Step 5: Change your love life. Change your life. If you are single and lonely or in a unhappy relationship ...nothing will change until you make it happen. The other person will never are the only one that can make your life better. So, maybe you need to start going to therapy or you need to join a women's or men's support group (whether you're single or in a relationship). If you're single, join online dating sites and choose differently. Do not choose dates based on looks. Make choices based on inner qualities that you seek in someone. If you don't want to do online dating, then join a "meetup" ( is a free web site, where you can find a group for anything you like to do).

All of the steps mentioned above will change your love life in one way or another. Because when you start the ball rolling for any type of change, you will be amazed at how it just keeps rolling and rolling. The key is to keep it rolling, by making changes. Make an agreement with yourself to do something everyday or just once a week, that you normally never do. If you do this now, then next year at this time you will look back on your life and you will be so amazed and proud of all of the changes you have made.

The best thing that I did for myself last year..that started the ball rolling for me, was, I made a sign that said "What Did You Do To Change Your Life Today?" and I put it where I would see it at the end of everyday. I can't tell you how many many many changes that happened in my life last year, all for the better...and this year, there is still more change to come. It's fun, it's exciting and necessary. The best quote I heard recently was: "The only difference between a rut and a grave, is the depth". So what are you waiting for? Give yourself a love life makeover now!

And if you have any questions, I'm always here to help.