Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Are You Happy?

Are you happy? Do you look on the bright side of things? Are you approachable?

If you want to attract a healthy positive type of love, then you need to project happiness.

But, how do you do this if you’re lonely, sad or jaded? It’s as easy as making up your mind to choose being positive in your every word and action. You must find happiness and fulfillment in your own life in order to attract the “one”. That means having hobbies, a job, and friends that fulfill you in a healthy way. It’s so easy to sink into bitterness and complacency and before you know it, you’re in over your head and you’re stuck. It takes a bit of effort to choose happiness everyday, but it’s worth the effort. And while you’re at it, expand your mind in new ways. Read a new book or magazine that is completely out of your regular routine. In fact, while you’re at it, start a new routine all together! March to a different drum, listen to new music and make new friends. The potential for expanding your life and happiness is limitless. Soak in all of the life you can, we only get one shot at it, so go for it!!!

On a more personal note, from my own observations these days, I have discovered that when I go to events or parties I have more fun than ever and so does anyone who comes with me. Why? Because I move around the room, smiling and talking to everyone I see. I’m interested in meeting new people, I love to hear their stories and it’s just fun talking to people. Before I was a matchmaker, I was like you: I would go to a party and just stand in one place with my friend and people watch. Then we’d leave and we never really ever met anyone new. Yes, we observed a lot of people…but, so what? We weren’t going outside of out comfort zones. Let’s face it, we go to parties and events to meet new people…so hell…get out there, walk up to someone and just start talking! What do you have to lose? Worst-case scenario: there’s not much to talk about, it might be awkward for a minute and you move on. Big deal, life is all about awkward moments, it’s what makes life most interesting, the unexpected. And the endless possibilities that each day brings, is what makes me happy! That and my animals ☺

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Onward and Upward

Hello out there!!! I am sorry that I haven't posted a new blog in a very long time, but I have a very good reason. I have been working on several books. And therefore have been using my ideas and advice for the purpose of a long form self help book or a few books, in this case. I finished my first book, Love Life Makeovers and am working on my next two. So, that is what I have been up to, I haven't forgotten any of you :)

But, I have recently been inspired to write a new blog on one of my favorite subjects: getting back together after you have both already called it quits.

It doesn't make a difference who is at fault or who breaks up with whom. The only thing that is important to remember is that there is drama and discourse, enough that one of you or both of you have decided to pull the plug on the relationship. And I firmly believe that you should never go back. Once a relationship ends, it ends for a good reason. And those that try to go back or do go back will end up sooner or later breaking up again and usually for the very same reason or issue that you broke up for, in the first place. Life is not about going backwards, life is about learning from your mistakes and moving forward. The longer you remain in a bad, turbulent relationship, the more time you waste. Time that you will never get back. I know several women who have wasted many, many years in an unhappy relationship with the wrong guy, only to now be in a place where, they are too old to have kids. They literally wasted those years thinking that they could change the guy or that by some magical power their relationship would get better. It never did.

And it breaks my heart to see people that I know stuck with their feet in quick sand watching life pass them by, while they struggle in a bad relationship that prevents them from having a happy life.

Life is about being happy and being a positive contributor to the universe. And how can you be positive and happy when you live a life filled with drama, misery and sadness? I say, "Onward and Upward!!" This is the only life you get, so make it the best you can.