We all want to be in a loving relationship, but it’s just
not enough to want one, you have to be
ready, willing, and available when the right person comes along. Which means,
walking that fine line between being open to any and all possibilities, but not
becoming needy or insecure or obsessive along the way. You have to stay in a
good place mentally, which usually means keeping your mind busy and having a
true passion that fuels you every day. A lot of women say that their true
passion is helping people or having a family or in my case, I could say animals. And while
that may be true, really, my true passion is my business. Because to me a “passion”
is something that you do that takes your mind completely off of yourself, your
worries and gets you out of your own head. This is what is absolutely required
in order to give you the autonomy and freedom, to not get sucked into the “over thinking” about
someone you’re dating. It’s the “over thinking” that’s the killer for any
relationship, be it friendship or love. Just let it be. Enjoy the moment and when
the moments over, move on (mentally). Don’t linger in your mind ruminating about every
detail, every word, every gesture. This is what makes you CRAZY. And believe
me, we can all feel that crazy energy coming towards us. So we duck and dive,
try to avoid eye contact and begin to slowly, but surely distance ourselves.
No one wants to be bombarded with phone calls or sent tons of texts or cornered into discussing how they feel or what they want too soon into knowing you. The best advice I can give anyone is this: Don’t prejudge
too quickly, don’t jump into quickly, don’t over think or over talk
about it or
even over contact. Just go about your life
and let it all evolve at a slow comfortable pace.
