This is a question that I have been asking people for a while now. Let’s face it, we all have our reasons. Or are they excuses? According to my married friend Karen, the ONLY reason anyone is single, is because they want to be. Hmmmm. Well, I guess if we took Karen’s theory completely literally, we could all be married if we were willing to grab any old jackass that looked at us and smiled. But, I think that the majority of us aren’t THAT desperate to get married that we are willing to marry the first parolee who crosses our path and asks us to marry them. But, then there is the other side of the coin. And on the other side of the coin is what I consider to be the number one reason why most of us are single, UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. It is a very very big problem. I notice this especially at my various singles events. When you put a group of single people in a room together and ask them to list who they are interested in, you can bet that EVERY guy will pick all of the prettiest women and all of the women will pick ALL of the cutest guys. Now, when it comes to attractive people…there’s no problem there. Attractive people will always be attracted to each other, of course. But, the problem with unrealistic expectations lies with those people that aren’t a 10 or a 9 or an 8 or 7 even a 6. I’m talking about people who are on the 1 to 5 scale. 5 being just average, not unattractive but not attractive either. The people in the 1 to 5 range NEVER seem to want each other….EVER. And I’m not sure if it is because they are completely unaware of their “number” or they know their “number” but, feel that in spite of their short comings they are entitled to someone way out of their league. Or maybe they want a trophy to prove to the world that they are much more than an ugly duckling. I’m not sure; I just know that people are way too concerned with someone’s temporary shiny outer shell rather, than look past the superficial. I really wish more single people who want to find love would choose their dates and future mates on what really matters most and what is not going to change with time, and that is a person’s intelligence and moral character, within their “number range” whether it’s 1 to 5 or 6 to 10. So, tell me, what is your number? Do you think you have unrealistic expectations? Why are you single?
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1 comment:
Gina, there's a certain circularity to your logic here. On the one hand, you say you cannot understand how people in the '1 to 5' scale try to date people 'way out of their league'. On the other, you say it should be about internal qualities such as morals and character. Well, the latter is true, there is no such thing as one person being out of someone else's league. The phrase "out of someone's league" has always bothered me, because it implies there are certain people who are somehow intrinsically more worthy as human beings than others. If what you say is true about valuing someone for their inner worth, then your first statement cannot also be true. As far as men/women gravitating toward the most attractive person in a room, this may be true but I believe a lot of what we call 'attraction' is also in our power to create. And by that metric, there really are no ugly ducklings in this world.
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